How to be interesting

Nov 10

I have a confession: I am socially awkward.
Here’s another confession: People are almost always surprised when I say that

Is it because I fake it well? (maybe!)

But I think it’s because I’m pretty good at being interesting. And here’s what I’ve learned that has helped me go from being awkward and anxious to confidently awkward.

Cause here’s the thing: People are not compelled by the “right words,” the “perfect strategy,” or a fancy job title.

They’re compelled by confidence. By someone who shows up, takes up space unapologetically, and owns who they are.

That’s what makes people lean in. That’s what makes you magnetic.

But if you’re sitting there thinking, “Cool, but HOW do I do that?” … I got you.

5 Habits That Make You Instantly More Magnetic

Ever wonder why some people walk into a room and instantly draw others in?
It’s not because they have the fanciest job title, the funniest stories, or the “perfect” words.

The secret to being interesting has less to do with what you say and more to do with how you show up.

In this guide, you’ll learn simple, practical habits that will make you more compelling in conversations, build stronger connections, and help you feel confident in any room.

1. Lead Yourself First

If you want to be interesting to others, start by being someone who leads yourself. That means:

Taking responsibility for your choices
Owning your mistakes (without beating yourself up)
Going first, even when it feels uncomfortable

People are naturally drawn to those who are willing to move forward without waiting for permission.

2. Like Yourself (and Show It)

Confidence is magnetic. And confidence doesn’t mean being the loudest person in the room—it means actually liking yourself.

When you own your worth and stop apologizing for who you are, others will find you more compelling. If you don’t believe you’re interesting, why should anyone else?

3. Be Curious (The Real Secret)

Here’s the #1 hack to being interesting in conversation: you don’t need to be clever, you need to be curious.

Instead of trying to think of the “perfect” thing to say, ask thoughtful questions like:

“What made you get into that?”
“What’s been the highlight of your week?”
“Tell me more about that…”

When people feel seen and heard, they walk away thinking you were fascinating—because you made them feel fascinating.

4. Be Decisive

Overthinking and constant “I don’t know” energy?

Not interesting.

You don’t need to have all the answers, but making decisions (even imperfect ones) shows confidence and creates momentum. People are naturally drawn to those who move forward instead of staying stuck.

5. Focus on Connection, Not Performance

The most interesting people aren’t performing or trying to impress. They’re connecting.

They listen. They make others feel valued. They show up authentically instead of trying to “play a role.”

When you focus on genuine connection, you automatically become more magnetic—no fancy stories or job titles required.

Final Thoughts: How to Be Interesting Without Trying So Hard

Being interesting isn’t about being perfect, witty, or extraordinary.

It’s about:

Leading yourself with confidence
Liking yourself enough to show up authentically
Asking curious questions that spark conversation
Making moves instead of overthinking
Focusing on connection over performance

Do these, and you’ll never have to wonder “Am I interesting enough?” again.

You’ll already be the most magnetic person in the room.

Are you ready to do the impossible?

Hi! I’m Erica

Wife to Brendan. Mom to twins + one. Dog mom. Slow runner. Coffee drinker. GIF enthusiast.

I’m a licensed mental health therapist and life coach and career coach. I help you accomplish in 6 months that thing you’ve been thinking about doing for years.