The Real Reason You’re Stuck (and How to Break Through Fast)

Jun 14

“I have 10 different things to coach on today,” my client laughed (after all, most people bring one or two topics. But I attract people who want to accomplish a lot!)

Most people bring one or two. But my clients? They’re overachievers with a capital O.

And here’s the wild part: by the end of our 45 minutes, we had covered every single one.

Not because I handed her a secret productivity hack. Not because she somehow worked harder. But because we got to the root of what was actually in the way.

“This was really good! We covered everything!” she said as we wrapped up the call.

Success Is Simpler Than You Think

One of my coaches explains it like this:

There’s you.
There’s the thing you want.
And then there’s everything standing in between.

That’s it.

Success isn’t magic. It’s just working through what’s in the way.

But here’s the problem: most people never even name what’s blocking them. They assume their dream is “impossible” and give up before they start. Basically, they fail ahead of time (boo).

Two Kinds of Obstacles

There are only two types of problems between you and the thing you want:

✔️ Strategy problems – You don’t know how, you’re missing a skill, or you’re following a plan that doesn’t work for you.

✔️ Confidence problems – You don’t believe you can, you’re worried what people think, you’re stuck in indecision, or your stress and anxiety are running the show.

And here’s the kicker: strategy problems are almost always rooted in confidence problems.

Because if you don’t believe you can do something, you’ll either avoid finding a strategy altogether or sabotage the one you try.

How to Collapse Timelines

Here’s the part that makes everything go faster: stop chasing symptoms and solve the core issue.

My client’s 10 problems weren’t really 10 problems. They were 10 symptoms of one underlying belief.

It’s like vampire lore (yes, I went there). If you kill the original vampire, all the little vampire offspring die too. But if you don’t? You’ll spend forever running around trying to stab baby vampires one at a time.

Most of the “100 obstacles” between you and your goal are just offspring. Deal with the original vampire — the limiting belief — and suddenly things start to move at lightning speed.

What Happens Next

When you tackle the root problem instead of trimming weeds, everything accelerates:

✔️ You take action instead of spinning.
✔️ You start getting results (and then improve them).
✔️ You create what you want faster than you thought possible.
✔️ You realize you’re capable of so much more than you’ve been giving yourself credit for.

This is the kind of work that makes you unstoppable.

Ready to Move Faster?

You don’t need more hustle, hacks, or busywork. You need to figure out whether you’ve got a strategy gap, a confidence gap — or both.

That’s what I help my clients do every day.

f you’re ready to go after what you want without wasting years stuck in self-doubt, then you’ll want to set up a call with me to talk about working together 1:1.

Go get them, Van Helsing.

Are you ready to do the impossible?

Hi! I’m Erica

Wife to Brendan. Mom to twins + one. Dog mom. Slow runner. Coffee drinker. GIF enthusiast.

I’m a licensed mental health therapist and life coach and career coach. I help you accomplish in 6 months that thing you’ve been thinking about doing for years.