THE SCOREKEEPER

You don’t want to keep score.
You just notice… things.

Like how you always remember their birthday, but they forget yours.

Or how you picked up the slack (again) and no one even said thank you.

Or how you’ve been carrying the emotional weight of your relationships like a secret job no one asked you to take (but you did anyway).

Here’s what’s really going on:

You give. A lot.
And deep down, you’re not looking for applause.
You just want other people to show up the way you do.

To pull their weight.
To notice what needs to be done without being asked.
To care as much as you do.

But when that doesn’t happen?
The resentment builds.
You start feeling bitter, burned out, and low-key furious
…like you're stuck managing everything while everyone else just slacks off.

You're not controlling. You're not overreacting.
You're just tired of carrying the full load while pretending it's fine.

What you actually need:

✔️ A way to express your needs before you hit the boiling point
✔️ Boundaries that don’t rely on people “getting the hint”
✔️ Recognition that your feelings are valid - even when they’re messy

You don’t need to stop caring.
You just need to stop overgiving in silence and hoping someone else
finally catches on.

When you shift this pattern:

• You stop expecting mind-reading and start asking clearly for what you need

• You stop silently seething and start speaking up (without feeling high-maintenance)

• You feel less like the unpaid emotional labor intern and more like a full human being

Want help shifting out of this pattern?

You’re not “too sensitive.”
You’re just aware of every unspoken imbalance. And you’ve been carrying that awareness alone for way too long.

I’m working on a low-cost support tool designed just for Scorekeepers like you - something that helps you break the resentment cycle, speak up without shame, and stop keeping quiet (or keeping score).

Keep an eye on your inbox. You’ll be the first to know when it’s ready.

And in the meantime, I’ll send helpful, validating, and very real resources to help you shift this pattern one unspoken obligation at a time.