THE SCOREKEEPER

You don’t want to keep score.
You just notice… things.

Like how you always remember their birthday, but they forget yours.

Or how you picked up the slack (again) and no one even said thank you.

Or how you’ve been carrying the emotional weight of your relationships like a secret job no one asked you to take (but you did anyway).

Here’s what’s really going on:

You give. A lot.
And deep down, you’re not looking for applause.
You just want other people to show up the way you do.

To pull their weight.
To notice what needs to be done without being asked.
To care as much as you do.

But when that doesn’t happen?
The resentment builds.
You start feeling bitter, burned out, and low-key furious
…like you're stuck managing everything while everyone else just slacks off.

You're not controlling. You're not overreacting.
You're just tired of carrying the full load while pretending it's fine.

What you actually need:

✔️ A way to express your needs before you hit the boiling point
✔️ Boundaries that don’t rely on people “getting the hint”
✔️ Recognition that your feelings are valid - even when they’re messy

You don’t need to stop caring.
You just need to stop overgiving in silence and hoping someone else
finally catches on.

When you shift this pattern:

• You stop expecting mind-reading and start asking clearly for what you need

• You stop silently seething and start speaking up (without feeling high-maintenance)

• You feel less like the unpaid emotional labor intern and more like a full human being

Is it you? Or is it them?

You've seen how your resentment shows up (the scorekeeping, the internal WTF-ness).

Now, let’s figure out if it's justified.

I created The Sanity Check to be the tool I wish I’d when I was spiraling. It’s a $27 diagnostic toolkit designed to help you:

• Identify the root cause of the resentment (it’s rarely what you think it is).

• Diagnose if you’re actually overreacting or if the situation is messed up.

• Know where you stand so you can make a smart decision about what happens next